- Whiteboard / Butchers Paper / worksheet
- Marker

1. Write the following 5 letters downward on butchers paper / whiteboard:

F
R
I
E
S

2. Brainstorm and Discussion of FRIES

🗣️ ASK:
"In order for something to be consensual, there are 5 things that need to be true, each starting with one of the letters in "FRIES". What do you think these may be?

Give participants an opportunity to reflect for a moment, and perhaps fill in the first letter on the board/butchers paper for them first: "Freely given". Go through each of them, in turn, and ask participants what they think it means. Fill out the whiteboard with just the main word, as you go through each of them.

• Freely given. Doing something sexual with someone is a decision that should be made without pressure, force, manipulation, or while drunk or high.
  
• Reversible. Anyone can change their mind about what they want to do, at any time. Even if you’ve done it before or are in the middle of having sex.
  
• Informed. Be honest. For example, if someone says they’ll use a condom and then they don’t, that’s not consent.
  
• Enthusiastic. If someone isn’t excited, or really into it, that’s not consent.
  
• Specific. Saying yes to one thing (like going to the bedroom to make out) doesn’t mean they’ve said yes to others (like oral sex).

3. Ask participants to reflect on this in light of a previous activity on borrowing the student's pencil

🗣️ ASK:
"Just now, when I asked to borrow their pencil, how did we all know that they offered their pencil to me consensually?"

You can effectively test students' understanding of the F.R.I.E.S. acronym by asking, one by one:

• "Was the pencil freely given in the first place?"
• "Was their decision reversible? Could they take their pencil back?"
• "Was their decision informed? What could I or they have done to make sure that they were informed? (e.g. knowing what I wanted to borrow their pencil for, how long I would hold on to it, and when I was intending to return it?)
• "Did they seem enthusiastic and willing? Or were they feeling reluctant?"
• "Was my request specific?"

NOTE: The F.R.I.E.S. consent acronym was originally developed by Planned Parenthood .