What you need
- A stack of blank Cards or post-it notes (approx 20 cards per participant)
- Butchers paper / whiteboard
- Markers
- Blu-tack

or

-worksheets
-pens

How to facilitate

1. Hand out blank cards to participants
2. Explain: Ask participants to reflect on the question: ”How is porn sex different from sex in real life?”(5 mins)

🤲 NOTE:

If a participant discloses that they don’t currently watch porn, or have never seen porn, you can ask about stereotypes about sex or porn in mainstream media, including movies, streaming services, social media, literature, or even among their friendship networks.

1. On the whiteboard, divide into two columns. In one column, write “IN PORN”, and in the other column write “IN REAL LIFE”

2. Go through each of the following categories, one by one:

   • BODY TYPES
   • PLEASURE AND ORGASM
   • GENDER DIFFERENCES
   • SAFE SEX AND CONTRACEPTION
   • TYPES OF SEX

   For each of these categories, ask participants to write something on their cards that relates to how the subject is shown in porn, compared to in real life.

   For example, starting with the first category (body types) you can use an example, ”giant penises”, and then stick this card with blu-tack under the column “IN PORN”, and on a second card you could write “stretch marks”, and then stick this card under the column “IN REAL LIFE”.

   Ask participants to try to have at least one card in each column, for each category, if possible. Encourage them to create varied examples and reflect a variety of knowledges and assumptions about porn.

3. Go through each of the categories one by one, and have a group discussion about what participants have written. Take time to dispel any myths, stereotypes or misconceptions, as they arise.

⚠️ NOTE:
Emphasise that no one will be judged as a reflection of their personal knowledge or experiences of sex and porn. Remind participants of group agreements.